I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private

By Kimberly King

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Readers` Reviews

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komal
Very clear for my 7 & 8 year old sons to understand.
I recommend this book to every parent!
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meredith mallouk
It is good for little kids.
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alison chorney dubien
I bought this book for my 4 and 6 year old grandsons and they loved it. It gives them guidance,the okay to say no and what to watch for in other's behavior.
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jim purcell
Good book for reading to a child between the ages of 4 and 8.
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asuka
Thank you for writing this book and for sharing your story. Bless you!
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kate buford
This is a great book that I read with my young children. It makes it easy for the child,to understand though it can get long at times.
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jeanine militello
the store has rated this book for preschool & up, which is what I based this purchase on. I agree with other reviewer, in that it is too sophisticated for 4 yr olds. It is written in instructional form, as one would expect from a teacher such as the author.

The Good: Substantial in content, including pauses inviting discussion and blank pages for workbook type entries of your own.

Not So Good: Would like to have seen more fun for learning introduced because the subject matter is so important. A lot could have been done with the red flag, green flag concept (very good); such as including cheap little flags in an inside back pocket or more repetition in the text of the book itself would have been good.

I think there was a missed opportunity here for more repetition and fun in really driving this message into the memory banks of children. I suspect the unpleasant experience this family faced would not permit this. If you buy it, make up some little flags out of chopsticks, skewers, toothpicks or something using your own imagination for red flag, green flag situations incorporating play time into it for nonsexual behavior as well.

I haven't decided whether or not to keep this book.
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turisa
Great information and a lot of different scenerios to go over with your child. I like the way the book goes over a section and then poses a question for the reader to discuss with their child. It is too much information and confusing for under 5. I read parts of the book only to my 4 year old because it is a lot of information and the attention span isn't there yet. Great book overall.
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brannon
I work as a sexual abuse prevention educator. I've read just about every book out there on this topic and this is hands-down the best one there is. Most of them are too vague to be useful and I've never read another one that goes through all the trickery and manipulation that abusers use to get kids to cooperate and keep quiet. This one is detailed but not graphic. It is a little long but parents can easily curtail it to meet their child's needs/attention span. I highly recommend this book for parents who are wanting their kids to know the basics of safe and unsafe touch on the private parts and what to do if they encounter an unsafe situation.
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sandra beck
I got this book thinking it would be great for my four year old. Some weird things have come up.... Well, upon prevewing it before I read it to him I found it could lead to a small child making "stories". Great book! Love it. But, should be read with caution. Or used as a reference until children are a little bit older.
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jessica evans
helpful for children
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hannah vandeveire
My 7 yr old daughter had a bad experience with a friend of hers. This book has helped her to understand that it can happen to any one and how you can deal with it. It also promotes healthy role playing which she did with her 4 yr old sister. I would recommend this book to anyone with children.
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sergio amira
Great book on tackling a very sensitive topic!
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andrey bagdasaryan
Very helpful read!!
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aarushi
I would recommend this to anyone with small children. It approaches a very delicate topic in a very matter-of-fact manner and gets the point across without being inappropriate or too detailed. It is great at teaching kids to trust their instincts and distinguishing between "green flag" people and "red flag" people and how to get help -- even if the "red flag" person is a parent or some other trusted person. I feel it's a great tool in helping to prepare my children for a situation that they need to be aware of without scaring them.
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noah rosenthal
Important book in today's context especially ...
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heron
I highly recommend this book if you have young children in the house. I had each one of my kids read this and then we discussed it at length. It makes a hard to talk about subject completely approachable.
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cody robinson
I work with kids and wanted to find a book that would empower them to tell if someone is abusing them in any way.
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andrea levine
I found the book a bit too dense and repetitive to read to my 5 year old son as is. But it covers a wide range of scenarios and provides a great basis for starting this important discussion with your kids. One of the few books around that addresses the issue of child sexual abuse in a preventive way.
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priyal
Very good book for explaining good touch/bad touch to children. I love the back story and hope it was healing for the authors.
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caitlin boyce
My kids loved this book and so did I ! It was very straight to the point and the message was clear. It used repetitive phrases to help kids retain the important messages. I loved that there were places in the book where it stopped for you to interject information to your kids using the terminology that is specific to your family. My kids asked me to read this book over aver and over because they liked me asking "what would you do" questions and letting them raise their hands to answer. I Loved the open dialog that this book naturally created while reading!!!!
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sara grace
This and more like it should be in every home with children 18mo up, I do suggest as a grandma, that you show it to the parents first.
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amy wise
As a therapist who has worked with children and adolescents for over 18 years, I highly recommend this book for elementary-aged boys and girls. I have read the book with children during our sessions and have allowed parents to borrow it so that they may further read it with them. Please purchase this book to read with your child.
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kate stone
The book came in a reasonable period of time and in the condition stated. I would use this seller again. (The book though is only mediocre. I have a couple of other books I prefer to use in practice that give information as well if not better. But to each his own.)
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paul johnston
This book helped me to have a smart and specific conversation about a difficult subject. Thank you to Zachary and his mom for writing it, one of the best book purchases I've ever made.
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emily chancellor
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am impressed by what an amazing boy Zach is at such a young age. Thank you for writing this so that we can talk to our kids about this too!
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riadun adnan
The only thing I would have added was a page on what to do if your kid's friend tells them about something that happened. This book was very clear and understandable for my 3, 6, and 8 year old kids.
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anitabartlett
Great book
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tanya walker
This book is kind of long for my 4 YO, but she was very interested in the subject, which is delicate. I feel it's presented in an appropriate way, although there is quite a bit of repetition through the book which makes reading it through a bit much for the parent! I do like the way it asks things like, "What would you do? What would you say?" to get the child thinking how they would respond. I believe that's an important piece of processing the advice, and for preparing a child to deal well with a situation, should one arise.
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susan storz
This book spurred a great discussion.
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marijke
Love the red light and green light feelings. Works well for 3 year old and up.
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dalton
This is a great book that offers an overwhelming amount of information. My biggest suggestion would be for the parent(s) to read through it FIRST and sticky note the pages you want to read with your child. NOT ALL PAGES ARE APPROPRIATE FOR EVERY CHILD. There are clearly pages that are meant for children that have already experienced something and pages just for children in general. And it is very much ok to skip around and not read it cover to cover.
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savita
Just right for my 5 year old. Even covers what to do if one of the parents is a problem.
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mark monday
Excellent book
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cheryl leslie
this is a good book to teach important of keeping private parts private. I recommend this book to all parents.
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irene voyles
I bought this book for my 8 year old daughter and 5 year old son. I read the entire book to my daughter and she really understood the message by the end. The book uses real life situations and things kids/adults would actually say and do. It gave my daughter the power to understand and know what to do in different situations. Excellent book
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fonrus
Gives children words to use to be able to report "red flag people". I liked this book best of many I researched.
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heid
I bought this book for my 4 year old daughter, to teach her about keeping private parts private. When I received it, I realized it was way too old to her. The concepts are a bit frightening I think for her age group. I think this book is good for kids at least 7 years old and up. I returned it and bought "No Trespassing - This is My Body" instead.
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marilee
Told from child's perspective. Too many words per page for very young children. A good read for 5+ maybe. Ok book, good message
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pixie orvis
Longer book than I was anticipating but good stuff.
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madan
Great book for children to learn how to be safe.
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erika bailey
A great book. I bought to reinforce the 'no' and the 'off limits' messages that we've been trying to teach our girls as they've been age appropriate...(now 7 1/2 and 4 1/2) and our son when he gets to the right age. One thing that concerned me that made us want to use a book like this was that we're also working to teach our kids to be polite, and sometimes the messages can be conflicting to them. We tell them that they should not argue with adults, but yet, could an unscrupulous person use that 'against them' and to his/her own advantage? The book was straightforward, but in a language and message age appropriate. I liked the discussion topics, but my 7 1/2 year old was bored with them after one or two. We broke the book up into several readings, so as not to overwhelm. Overall the kids response was good. They were even able to identify "red flag" events...even though our 4 1/2 year old now has started yelling "red flag" whenever we do something she doesn't like (i.e. making her eat vegetables!). So she and I have had conversations about what are REAL red flags, and I think she gets it. We talked about lots of "what if" examples...and the 7 1/2 year old gets them right, the 4 1/2 year old is about 50/50, so we have more work to do with her. The biggest thing they were both impressed with was how well the author handled himself, and how clever he was to hide in the bathroom. I also added to my kids that they could go to the house phone where they were and call mom anytime and I would come get them if it was a situation they didn't like - and if they felt they couldn't get safe, we practiced 911 again and again. (not on the real phone). Found the book relevant and helpful. Would not have thought of a peer-abuse situation...have focused so much on adult to child, so that was good for me to think about too. Helpful story, thank you for sharing.
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jen gaudette
Very well written for little ones. It was a comfortable way to communicate with my grandson the importance of protecting himself. I LOVED the red flag, green flag concept. Made tons of sense and my grandson easily understood.
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lokizaya
Compared to other books with similar content, it was a bit more wordy than I would have liked. My kids got the just of it, and it's a good lesson for all kids!
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margie klein
Excellent. Thought provoking. Interactive. Very helpful.
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msbossy
Great at getting kids engaged and practicing thinking about their responses to different situations. My son enjoyed this book and he is safer for it
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cynthia adams
My daughter loves this book and after one time reading it, she already reciting the words to it. Detailed without getting graphic.
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devin
Very helpful.
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andrea arbogast
Overall it is a helpful book. I do not understand why the author chose to keep using the phrase, "Get the heck out of there!" Why is heck necessary? I also was uncomfortable with the statement that red flag situations happen "lots of times." I think the word choice could have been better but it was good enough to use to read to my daughter with some minor editing on my part.
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shefali
excellent book
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hugh y
Well written very helpful
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eric wilson
Great book but please use it to prompt conversations you should be having with your children, it should not be used in place of those very important talks!
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thonas rand
I'm a health educator for a family planning clinic, I use this book for story time with little kids for education on safety and appropriate behavior. But the book is very, very long. Way too long to keep a young child's interest especially in a group. I've gone through the book and highlighted certain sections to read outloud, skipping entire pages when I need to, I probably use less than half of it. But the story is clear and there is a very good message. I really like the imagery of red and green flag people to identify what's safe and what's not. I give it a thumbs up but wish they would have edited it down a lot.
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stephani itibrout
I would recommend this book for children aged six and older. I bought this book for my four year old and feel it is too long and a little too advanced for her to fully comprehend. Thankfully, I also purchased "Your Body Belongs to You" which I think is much more age appropriate when trying to introduce the concept of sexual abuse to young children. However, my personal situation aside, I will definitely keep this book to read to her when she is a little older.
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melisa gaspar de alba
Great book along with "No trespassing this is my body"! Helped my husband and I to talk about these topics and help us to learn great ideas of how to talk about this area .
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abbie
Chose sections of it to use as a starting point for conversation. But wouldn't read it cover to cover with my very young children.
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ncprimus
The book says it was written in a kid to kid prospective. Only problem with that is the kid was a 59 year old out of touch guidance councillor. My 4 and 7 year old were so excited that we had a new book but, could not make it passed page 20. Pages 8-20 basically say the same thing in different words, over and, over and, over. My 7 year old said why are we reading this, I'm not 3 and, I completely understood why she would say that.
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nirvani
I read this book by myself before I am going to read it to my daughter and I cried. I think it is an amazing book and want to say thank you to the Author of this book. I think this is exactly what I was looking for. My daughter is going to 2nd grade this month and there are scary real life situations like the one's explained in here and think my daughter my daughter will completely understand. It is good to teach about private parts being private and who is and who isnt allowed to touch and the reasons moms and dads and drs touch..only to keep you healthy and clean. I really really recommend this book, I read My body belongs to me and I am returning it. It was horrible and a waste of money. I love this book.
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chris abraham
Great book to read to your kids to teach them and educate them on sexual abuse and what to do.
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matt earls
I bought this as a way to talk to my 3 and 5 year old kids about their bodies. It's a little too heavy on the words for that age group, but I think they still understood enough for this to be beneficial. They were able to answer questions accurately about what/who is OK or not, but it wasn't quite what I was expecting for a kid-to-kid book.
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jennifer conerly
Having endured such abuse as a child myself, I can't tell you how important these books are in making a difference in the lives of our youth by simply giving them a voice, which empowers them in the absolute best way possible.
My life surely would've been different had they been read to me as a child, no doubt!
Great job! Thank you, and God bless you for writing this!
♥ ♥ ♥ May parents & grandparents help bring about awareness in order to protect the precious innocence of our precious youth.
~ Lynne Nichols, author of In His Hands, a journey of faith and forgiveness
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emanuel
I bought this to help teach boundaries to my foster children. I thought it was a little long to be used as a bedtime story personally, but the kids love to choose this as a bedtime story because it means they'll get to stay up later. I like the simple, easy to understand use of flags as a code system for when kids are in unsafe conditions. I thought the book does a decent job of teaching proper sexual boundaries. I do wish they would've gotten a tad bit more specific, I understand why they wanted to keep it light (it's a children's book) but some of my kids didn't quite get the message.
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vivian phan
This book is almost too long and redundant. There may be a good reason for it, but it's a little bit much for my almost 4 year old. I wanted to start teaching him this stuff early so I got the book to read to him. I just wish it was a little more concise and not so wordy where it doesn't need to be.
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mahboube mohammadi
A great book on teaching children about areas that should be protected, as well as ways on how to handle potential violators.
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gradylove
Great book, easy for my 5 year old to understand.
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beverlee
This book does a great job of addressing personal boundaries in a child friendly manner. I use it in my practice with children.
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rahmadiyanti
My son is 5. This book is too wordy and too sophisticated for him to comprehend. This book is great for kids 9 and older. Kids this age have a short attention span. I bought this book solely on customers reviews. the store's "Look Inside" function only showed the front and back covers. Had I been able to read a few pages I would have never purchased this for my son.
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katie konrad
Too long winded for my 3 1/2 year old. I'm going to wait until she's 4 + before trying again. It went "over her head".
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afra
This book really helped me reach my two-year-old to understand the concept.
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melissa sgroi
Every child knows this word, but do they know when to use it in the right way this book helps with that.
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jane buyny
I wish things like this were out for parents to get their hands on early on. I never thought of looking for something like this to be proactive.

This book was absolutely AMAZING / AWESOME / WONDERFUL!!!!

Reading this through with my daughter a few months after finding out what had happened, helped to relieve a lot of stress and worry in her. It's an easy read through for parent/child!!!!
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alex buckley
I'm glad it has real life examples...but it's a bit too wordy in my opinion. I'm considering sending it back.
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vorpal
This book is too verbose. When presenting new subject matter to small children the sentences need to be short and concise.
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anne girl
To many words. Kids need short messages. My kids never sat through one reading of this book. Good info though - I summarized for them.
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sara gibson
I read this to my 4 and 6 year old and they lost interest. The message was good but longer than they could focus for.
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nicco
Decent book and enabled me to speak with my 6 year old about private parts and privacy....but the book is incredibly wordy. It's just very long and I found myself skipping over large areas of the book and just using parts to initiate our conversation. I also wasn't a big fan of "red flag" and "green flag" titles for people; so we skipped that too. I was also looking for something that was easier to read and that he could read to himself later, but this isn't that type of book. All in all I suppose it did what it was supposed to do, start the discussion between parent and child. But I will be looking for something else to allow my son to explore and read himself.
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dorri olds
I like the premise but it is WAY atop wordy and long for kids.
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prema
We read this book to the kids from time to time over the last few years, in the setting of discussion and other books. Then recently my 9 year old daughter disclosed an abusive situation and I was heartbroken and she was crying. I always thought she would feel comfortable telling me if something happened. She said it happened more than a year ago and she was afraid she'd be in trouble because she "didn't say no." Children are not responsible for saying no, the perpetrators are responsible for not abusing children. A child in an uncomfortable situation may freeze and this book taught her that she therefore had done something wrong. I am heartbroken. I wish I had chosen a book that instead taught children about boundaries without emphasizing that they have to SAY NO.
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kat lebo
The thoughts are good but it reads like a textbook. The illustrations don't tell a relatable story. There are better books out there like "Who Has What?" and "It's MY Body".
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jo gilley
While the concepts in this book are sound, the book is far too wordy for the lower end of the age group it's intended for. I cannot use it in the way I had hoped, because there is no way a 6-7 year old would last through even half of the book.
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alfredo olguin
Fantastic book!
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renukar
I got this book for my children, ages 2.5 and 5.5, and I think they are too young for this book. The content is good but I think more appropriate for grade-schoolers.
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effie
I got this book for my three year old, and it is a bit too high level for this age. I think it will be better when she is a bit older.
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jake erickson
This book is a little intense. The author suggests reading it in chunks. But overall it is good.
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simon simbolon
This book is good because it is written from a child's perspective and is fairly thorough. However, it only talks about scary and uncomfortable situations, and could instill fear if not presented properly. It would be nice if it had touched on children's curiosity and imitation of intimate kissing or groping (with adults or other children) that kids often see. These can often lead to more serious inappropriate touching, but often occur without the child feeling scared. In fact, many children think it is funny or even enjoyable. The problem usually comes later when the child realizes they had done something that is usually considered inappropriate. They run the risk of feeling ashamed or as if there may be something wrong with them. If they are never told differently, they may be adversely affected into adulthood. Keep this in mind and talk to your kids about it during or right after reading this book. Also, this book is about abuse only, so I recommend another book to go along with it that talks only about body parts and or reproduction. I bought "Amazing You", which was not perfect, but good enough and the best I could find.
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lasercats
This is actually not a bad book but I was looking for something to introduce the concept of sexual abuse to my three year old who is heading off to preschool soon. This is too wordy and really meant for an older child.
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daffie online
Too detailed and long for younger kids
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rachael gregory
This book has great pictures and is very thorough, but I thought it was much too detailed for my 4 year old boy--I have not read it to him because I think it will actually scare him. I don't like the framing story about the boy "who had a bad experience at a sleepover." I will keep looking for a book to help teach this topic.
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anna heffernan
Not toddler friendly. More pictures conducive for a toddler would have been nice.
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stacy noyes
I bought this because one reviewer of another book on the store said this was the best of the three she read. However, I found it way too long, complicated and repetitious. In the Afterword (which should've been the Prologue) you learn it was really written by a boy and his mom and the scenarios were real and writing this helped him get healing. I'm glad for that but it doesn't have the best advice in my opinion (staying in the bathroom might've helped him but not letting your 5 year old go to sleepovers and when they do equipping them with a cell phone and/or your phone number is better I think). At the beginning it says it's okay if your parents touch you for wiping and stuff and only at the end does it say well, if you think a parent is a red flag person then tell a trusted adult. Am seriously thinking of writing my own (not for publication) to read to my daughter.
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tamarasoo
I bought this for my 4 year old twin boys and I just feel like it's way too long to hold their interest plus it touches on things like how girls bodies are different than boys and they just have no curiosity about that at this point..This might be better for an older child.
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stacy noyes
This book is SO long. I cannot imagine reading it to my almost 5 year old... Might be okay for an older child, but honestly, it seems overboard.
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kaffeinefyxx
The red flag advice is good, but I can't help get stuck on the anecdote at the end—the author's son at a sleepover. A child his own age apparently asks him to do something with his privates. We don't know exactly what he was asking, but the child reacted, and his mother (the author) reacted strongly, even taking her child to months of therapy to recover. I'm not judging that, but I also wonder if framing a peer-to-peer interaction among young children as "abuse" might do more harm than good. Children get curious and explore their sexuality with one another at young ages ("you show me yours," etc.) I'm not sure we need to pathologize that. I think of child sexual abuse as being an older person with more life experience, physical maturity and sexual knowledge—someone who knows right from wrong—manipulating, predating upon and/or harassing a child sexually. I gave this book away in favor of other titles like "Your Body Belongs to You." I don't want my child to think a peer (in his case, another 4-year-old) being curious, as is natural, is reason to feel traumatized. I wonder if the mother's reaction might have traumatized this kid more than whatever it is that occurred between small children.
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frangipani
I bought this book for my 3 and 4 year old sons. It was very wordy and long. Not a good book for young children, due to the fact that its too lengthy and in depth. Will not keep their attention. I just had to read them a few pages at a time. I do like the sentiment of the book though.
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james m
Not really intended for little kids (4 and 5) like I thought. To me its more for the 7-9 range... Its a decent book
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noralisma
I have two toddlers and this book was a little over their heads. Will be a great addition for later on and I am glad I have purchased this book.
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mattias brand
I bought this to read to my 3yo as she was getting ready to go to camp. The book is a bit wordy and long to keep the attention of a toddler. This is better used as a guide on how to talk to your kids about this subject for parents to paraphrase.
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rekesha
I think it is a good book but I was not crazy about it
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vicky wyatt
This book is a very long read for younger children. My six year old lost interest in it not even half way in. Too wordy.
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rechan
I guess this is my fault but it is totally not appropriate for a 2 year old. It seems to be geared much more towards older kids. I was trying to start early! I'll take a look at it in another year and maybe I will feel different.
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hend omar
Well written. One of the best I have seen.
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traci kimble
Of handful of books on this topic I bought, this was the only one that actually was read.
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alana garrigues
This book was very confusing to me and my toddler. I didnt like it and it didnt keep my son interested
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surjit singh
I found this book to be too complicated for my for year old.
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mairead
Bought several books like this to educate my child and by far this one is THE most difficult one for a child to grasp. There are FAR too many analogies and scenarios and it jumps from one topic to the next - this would be too confusing for a child to grasp. Luckily I read this before introducing it to my child.
While it can be a good tools for a parent to get guidelines on how to approach thigns your own way ... it would certainly confuse a child that you are trying to teach that they have rights over themselves.
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harlee keinzley
A little too much for kids...
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janina schmitz
I really like the concept of the book but there are just too many words. My son knows when I skip over paragraphs, and he insists I go back and read them, but then he loses attention and does not get the concept of the book quite so much. If it was shorter or TO THE POINT, he would probably "get it" more so... and I don't know about anyone else's kids but I have not encountered a child who will sit for 25 minutes so you can read them a book! lol Just a thought!!
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velary velayathan
Very complex and not really appropriate for little ones.
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natalie clark
Toooooo long and wordy for the intended audience! Jeez, we had to hide this book it's terrible. "Amazing You" and "Your Body Belongs To You" were much better.
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jesa
The genesis for this book was a five-year-old’s invitation to inappropriate behavior with his friend, the author’s son. If addressing the issues raised by this frequent situation is your motivation for perusing the “private parts are private” section of parenting books on the store, use caution.

The preface to this book, by a PhD in family relations says, “Curiosity is natural. Young children discover that they are different and curiosity and exploratory behavior are a natural response.” This tone, however, is not shared at all in the actual book. There is no distinction between a five-year-old and an adult sexual predator. A child involved in ‘natural’ ‘exploratory’ behavior, is shamed as a ‘red-flag’ person. The book doesn’t label the behavior as “red flag,” it labels the child. That might be OK for adults, but I think it is wrong for young children who are legally and morally innocent.
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nick doty
Too much. Way too much. Why can't they just make a book that is simple and teaches little kids to protect their bodies. Definitely not for a 3 year old (I think the recommended age is older to be fair).
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king rat
I found this book on the store but then went to my local bookstore to purchase because I wanted to read it before bringing it home to my children. As a mother, I knew it was important to research things about how I wanted to raise my children. From the type of baby food, to clothing, to their education, to their friendships, to so many other things and yet, this topic is one of the most important and least addressed. Don't be discouraged by the poor reviews because they're from people who haven't experienced the reality of what is written in this book. Sadly, I have and the author worded exactly how it happens. The promises with bribes in exchange for the inappropriate behavior. Parents, please know that this behavior is more common than families are willing to admit due to embarrassing and shameful feelings. This book can be read in sections or all at once and is suitable for children as young as when they are able to comprehend. Also, don't feel like you have to read each and every word to your child. Read what you can or paraphrase but definitely teach them what is in this book. Thank you Kimberly and Zack!
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suchandra
As a child of molestation by a family member, this is something I am very passionate about. I never want any other child to suffer like I did. The shame, confusion and guilt I felt as a child and now anger I feel as an adult toward this, is something I pray my children never ever feel.

My children are 6 and 8 years old and while we always said things like, "your privates are private" and "no one should see or touch your privates" we never went further and I trust no one so they are never alone with anyone but I knew that as they get more involved with school and extra curricular activities this should be discussed. Over the summer when we had some peers out, there was a child who asked my son to "sign" his butt. My kids thought it was funny. I did not! It made me feel nauseous and worried. It was then that we upped the conversations a little pulling in my son's den leader to give a lecture to the boys about inappropriate touching.

I Said, No by Zack and Kimberly King helped me talk more about this with my children in a non scary way. The book discusses the a green and red flag system. Green flags are your caregivers like your parents and and doctors who sometimes will see your privates. "Your doctor will examine your privates only if mom or dad are in the room, to make sure all parts of your body are healthy. When you are younger, your parents or caregivers will clean your bottom and bath you because you are too young to do this yourself. These are green flag people.

Your red flag people are the ones who make you feel:
upset
uncomfortable
lonely
sad
yucky
etc.

The book than goes on to explain various ways you would want to throw up a red flag.

bribing
touching
threatening
etc.

This is a great system and a great way to begin the process of explaining to young children one of the dangers they may encounter in their lives. Sexual predators aren't always mean, old, ugly, strangers. Sometimes they are nice, neighborly, friendly or even family.

I highly recommend this book for any one with children.

Depending on your child, their age and comprehension this is a great start. Was able to ask open ended questions to my children and give them information that we will go over again and again. My 6 year old was a little bored with some of the repetitiveness but I believe this to be a great starting place for parents to broach the subject of sexual predators without being too scary.
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grey853
DO NOT BUY THIS BOOK!!!! I wanted something to teach my kids safety. This book tells the story of a child's unfortunate experience. (There are some serious holes in that story too but that isn't my main issue.) Kids need to learn to be safe but there is no reason to have them terrified or convinced that their 5 year old best friend might be a "red flag person". There is some decent information in the middle about safety but it has so much fear mongering in the beginning and at the end that I refuse to read it to my kiddos. I can just imagine my kids locking themselves in the bathroom for hours claiming that they had a tummy ache because they are afraid of every person they know and that is what the book recommended. Honestly, I wish there was an option to give zero stars because this book is worthless.
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aamerxmehdi
"Teach your children well; give them a code that you can live by." -- David Crosby, 1969

How I wish this delightful book existed when I was child!

This is an IDEAL teaching tool of empowerment for younger children (preschoolers) about learning to recognize danger. It is kid-friendly without being condescending, serious without being frightening. This 32-page masterpiece is one of the lead horses in the child sexual abuse prevention race.

For many years, children were warned about the cliche stranger, but the issue of predators children knew was rarely if ever addressed. When I was a child, I honestly thought a double standard existed - improper touching was only frowned upon by one's caretakers if done by strangers. During those years, I wondered why nobody ever said if children had any recourse if they were confronted with "bad touches" by people they knew.

This book COMPLETELY dispels the myth of the stranger bearing candy, lurking on playgrounds and near schools if indeed he ever even existed. Statistics have shown time and again that "bad touches" are very rarely done by strangers! It is timeless; the message of assertiveness and respect for boundaries and the human body at large can never be over emphasized.

This book provides a checklist in the form of very clearly written examples of danger signals, e.g. bribes, gifts, threats that a predator or potential predator might use. Each time an example is given, the words "RED FLAG!" are used. The child in the example is supplied with good verbiage and to shout, "NO! NO WAY!" quite loudly so as to be heard. The crucial message of telling a parent or some other trusted adult is stressed along with the equally crucial message that abuse is not always carried out by strangers. In fact, abusers are very seldom strangers.

What sets this gem apart is that it asks "what if" questions and some of the questions include relatives, e.g. "what if your [fill in the blank] asks to see you naked and touch your private parts and offers to buy you a gift if you keep that secret?" THINK: DANGER, SCREAM RED FLAG! SAY: "No! No way!" Be loud and clear! DO: Get the heck out of there! Tell your mom or your dad something happened that was very bad." That is the refrain in this book.

Just about any possible scenario is given in this book. The child is reassured that what predators do or try to do is never the child's fault and it is important that the child go to a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY. Calling 911 as an option is also given. This book is ideal for children 2 on up. I cannot recommend it highly enough. It is something that I think all families and educators of young children will find extremely beneficial.
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patsyann
We teach children to wear helmets when they ride bikes, seatbelts in the car, and we put stair gates up so toddlers don't tumble down. Giving children self-protection skills around potentially unsafe touch is just as important as these other safety steps. King's "I Said NO" children's book does just that with age-appropriate language that children can easily understand. Through what if scenarios, children are taught critical thinking skills learning that they have permission to say "NO" to any person, including authority figures, and to tell a trusted adult. When children have this information, they are better able to seek help if needed. I highly recommend every parent including "I Said NO" in their children's body safety library."
Feather Berkower, M.S.W.
Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Educator & Author
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dayne allen
This book is literally something every single parent with young children needs in their home. It's captivating and to the point without being too weird or graphic. I love the pictures and the way the book explains clearly that you never show anyone your private parts including close family members. The book is very well written and exactly what this new generation needs. Thank you!
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yoan
Kind of a long story that my toddler gets a little bored with, so I skip pages here & there, highlighting the wonderful points in this book. But am very happy with this purchase! I'm also very impressed as to the author (she and her young son wrote this together), who had a son who went through a traumatic experience, so I give props to her for spreading the word as to their experience (what a good mom for helping her son deal with things in this way, and so healing for him I can imagine! <3). It's very good with the visuals of the red and green flags. Overall really excellent book!
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eric j gates
I was sexually abused as a child and I never want that to happen to my son. But I wasn't sure how to talk to him about it. I didn't want to scare him so I looked for books. This book stuck out because it was actually written by a kid and his mom. It has been very helpful in helping my son to understand safety. My son now knows what to look for and he knows without a doubt that he can always come to Mommy if anything happens. I highly reccommend this book to anyone with kids.
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roseryne
As a school counselor, and a mother of small children, I have found this book to be unique in its delivery as well as very important for children, schools and parents to utilize in their homes, schools, and even in therapy sessions. The delivery of a sensitive topic is something I haven't seen before in my trainings, education, or in bookstores. The use of the easy, and colorful, green and red flags make the tools easy for children to understand and relate to. The book is interactive, the author uses excellent writing skills, care, and knowledge in the layout and her writing. I highly recommend this book to parents, counselors, and school counseling​ departments.
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tess lynch
I read this to my daughter because I am worried about the things she is being exposed to by her dad's girlfriend's son. She has told me several things that have happened and it makes me worried. I thought reading this book to her and building a discussion would help her to understand what is inappropriate when it comes to privates and who is allowed to see them.

I loved that it is written by a mother and son and is based on an experience that actually happened. It is also written in simple terms.

The only thing I didn't like were the inserted pauses for discussion. I didn't want to be told when to discuss.

I found the plans of action and what to do to be very good plans and accurate ideas. I will read this to my children often as they get older so they won't forget and we can have open dialogue about the subject.
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es yllumiere
You have got to get this information to your kids. Too much abuse is happening, in too many places, to too many innocent kids. Abuse often destroys their self esteem, distorts teen years and effects their marriage. Stop it in the beginning, before it starts. Too many people are afraid to talk about it or think it isn't time yet. Get this book, build their confidence and give them wisdom to know what to say to stay protected. Your kids are worth it!
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seekqu
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"I won’t ever advocate for a product, service or business unless I am absolutely 100% certain that I personally feel it would benefit someone positively. Please consider purchasing your child the book, Those Are My Private Parts. ([...] and I Said No! ([...] I read these both privately, and then several times to my 5-year-old. I can honestly say that I believe she understands. And in this belief, I can sleep a little sounder at night."
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martijn
Out of a handful of books on this topic, this book is far better than the others I read! It covers every aspect of what is typical, preparing the kids to be aware and to recognize several different situations that many children will face. They write a saying that is repeated throughout the book reinforcing the child to instantly know what to think, do and say if they find themselves in a unfortunate situation. I think it is very helpful that it's a true story. It is very visual with green=good and red=bad
I'd nevsupprised if I read another book better organized and informative than this one!
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cheryl gibbins
Overall this book gave good instructions for a child who is learning about setting boundaries. However on page 27 the authors state, "The kids who tell [about inappropriate touch] are the smartest ones of all!!!" As a clinician who works with children who have been mistreated, I am aware that many children do not tell, wait to tell, or only tell after an adult has discovered that the child is being mistreated and thus asks the child direct questions. It is potentially harmful for a child to be told that he or she is either smarter than, or not-as-smart as, another child due to when or if he or she disclosed about inappropriate touch or mistreatment. For example, if the child reading the book is already holding a secret, there is the risk of the child feeling shame about not having told yet, and thus not being "the smartest of them all." While I understand that it was not the intention of the authors to incite shame but rather encouragement, this statement nevertheless risks a negative outcome.
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sky cosby
Excellent read and highly recommended. This book is one that a parent should read with their child. The colorful pictures empowers a child to be brave and say "NO" when appropriate. Since the subject is something a child should not learn about alone, the book is designed to be read to a child. Not an easy subject to cover, but a necessary one, and Ms. King did a wonderful job.
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susan howson
Great for teaching body safety to children! I wish it was better for kids who have been sexually abused but I feel like this is more of a preventative. Still great though!
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juli sharp
A very helpful book with practical application and appropriately illustrated. I highly recommend this book to parents seeking ways to protect their children from this real and unfortunate issue.
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will hinds
Well written and succinct it is not difficult or embarrassing for a child to read but gets its safety message across.
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lilouane
This is such a hard topic but we really enjoyed how this book came from a child's perspective. It gives great skills that unfortunately our children need. My 4 and 8 year old and I went over parts of this book together. Then my 8 year old and I went over different parts that were more appropriate for scenerios she
Might encounter...like sleep overs. I would recommend this book for families who are broaching this subject for the first time or to families who need a refresher.
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eleanor r
How wonderful to have a child friendly book written about such a traumatic topic. Keep writing. Children needs your books!
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nicole heggelund
The book was well done and helps approach a difficult topic. I raised two daughters, as a divorced dad this book would have been a great asset and would have made a very tough topic quite a bit easier to discuss with my children.
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vicki brown
A little wordy at times but great resource.
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jsuh suh
Excellent book. Good way to start the discussion of keeping your child's body safe and explaining what abuse can look like. Highly recommended!
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dell smith
My children, 5&3 were able to completely understand and learn from this much needed book! As a Mother & survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I highly recommend adding this to your little one's shelf!
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cynthia flannigan
A great book to read with your child or grandchild to begin the conversation about sexual abuse. It's non threatening and engages the child with it's frequent reminders to stop and talk about or draw about the topic being read. I especially like how it encourages a child to trust their instincts and to express their feelings. With over 20 years of early childhood education experience, and having raised five kids myself, I highly recommend this book be part of your parent/teacher toolbox.
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ann endress
I particularly like how the book facilitates dialog in a non-threatening way. Since most sexual abuse is at the hands of a friend or relative, kids are often fearful of talking about what happened. If we can't bring the issue to light, we can't stop it. Great book for kids everywhere, regardless of whether the need to personally use the information.
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tracy collier
Read this with my daughter! She was able to follow along. Book is kinda long but she was able to follow along and answer questions about what we just read. I recommend it!
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mateo mpinduzi mott
This book was so appropriate for our 6 year old. She was very attentive to the story because it was age appropriate. I recommend this book for all young children. It's a scary world, and this book really helps put concerned parents' thoughts into words!
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kassandra
We discovered this book when our kids were 7 and 10 and thought we had covered this topic pretty well. In reading it then sharing it with them, it opened up a whole discussion instead of us rattling off parental concerns. The checklists, red flags, and discussion ?'s were key! Because of reading "I Said No!" together, we all have a heightened awareness of our surroundings and of who's being a creeper and what to look for. Thank YOU for this book, it addressed a difficult topic with courage and honesty without being scary!
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allets
i bought this book for my two young daughters who are about to start school. i wasnt sure how to have this conversation so this book really helped them understand. and it doesnt get graphic at all.
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ana lucia
This is a safe clear and concrete way to give your child a sense of what is appropriate touch or not!
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khalid
Great awareness book
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stephanie rouleau
This book is great. It deals with a tough subject. Children need to be aware of predators in all sizes when it comes to their personal space. It is lengthy and my five year old was kinda starting to lose interest in the end but we got through it.
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robert whitehill
As a Life Coach, Counselor, and Father; it is oft-times difficult to find didactic material that can be shared with children, in tandem with being readily understood by parents. The illustrations hold one's attention - especially the attention of the kids. This book is, essentially, a "sharing moment" for families, and can be a useful tool for those in the field of mental health. It is wonderful that such a subject can be brought forth in such a refreshing format.
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dena sanders
great!
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kosha
Nicely done!
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dawn boren
Only talks about private part safety. An entire book about keeping privates private produces a sense of embarrassment about privates. Does not mesh well with our sex positive family. Too many words for my 4 year olds attention span.
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amalia
Reading for the kids
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christine henderson
Kimberley, I love that you wrote this book with your son. Thank you. I wish there were a kindle edition. I think this book would be great for my daughter, but she really likes to read her books on the kindle or on my iphone these days.
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dandra
This is one of the best education books for children have ever read. A must read for kids and parents.
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kalmsten
A great book for kids to understand how to handle such a delicate issue.
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harish
Was a good book but for a 4 year old she seemed to get bored half way threw. Do think the message was really good
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bj rn hallberg nielsen
I loved this book! It is a great tool to use in talking with your child about a difficult subject. It speaks on a young person's level which makes it so useable. After reading this book with my son, I feel good knowing that my son will be better prepared if faced with such a horrible situation.
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lara tomlin
As a mom of three young boys it has been a great fear of mine that any of my boys should ever be in a situation where their private parts are touched inappropriately. My husband and I have always discussed openly with each of them what behavior is appropriate and what to do if they are ever in a dangerous situation, but were uncertain whether or not we really covered every situation necessary. This book has been a tremendous guide in helping us to approach the topic with our boys fully and on a level that they can understand and are comfortable discussing. We shared the book with all three boys and then our two oldest boys read it individually once again. They said it was great and that they are very happy Zack was willing to share his story to help other boys and girls to know when to say NO!
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cristi
he keeps this one by his bed when he is here his 4 days per month!
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james ricuito
Excellent, It's easy reading for children, and understanding.
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